Perhaps this is too controversial a subject for it to be my first post on this blog but this is something that I think about quite often. Most recently, I thought about this when a woman on a confessions site complained about a guy (a complete stranger) who commented on her weigh while she was standing in a queue. The confession itself was riddled with its own set of issues but I agreed with her sentiment that irrespective of what you may think of someone’s body (weight or otherwise), it does not give you the right to criticize.
The flip side is that I often see and hear overweight women refer to themselves as “curvy”, “voluptuous” or “hourglass figured”. Before I’m crucified for hating on women with some extra cushioning, let me preface this by saying that I am overweight. Not in a “I need to lose 5 kilos to fit into this bikini” overweight. I’m a solid 100kgs and I would never refer to myself as curvy. I’m just fat. And so are many of these women who try to delude themselves by referring to themselves as “curvy”. Christina Hendricks is curvy. We come is all shapes and sizes, and the focus really should be on being healthy. Alas, we do live in a superficial world that constantly encourages us to compare ourselves to celebrities and models. No doubt, this has been the cause of many a young girl’s skewed perception of her body.
On the one hand I believe that no-one has the right to berate or belittle someone based on their weight or body, and that applies to men, women, big or small. Mind your own business, you aren’t living their life, you don’t know anything about them. If you have concerns because of the health implications of someone being over or under weight, there are ways to approach it without being rude.
On the other hand, people should not try to convince themselves that they are something that they are not. Often this is a coping mechanism used to mask the reality of a situation but it really doesn’t help in the long run. If you are a naturally bigger person, don’t try to fit into clothing that doesn’t flatter your figure, it will only make you feel worse about yourself. Dress your shape and size, not what you want to look like based on fashion trends. And for the love of god, can big girls stop referring to thin women and “skinny bitches”. It’s just as insulting as someone calling you fat. I have friends who work hard to maintain their weight and stay healthy. Why should they be criticized for that?
The sexiest thing you can wear is confidence. Know who you are and try not to take life too seriously. This life it too brief an interlude in cosmic history to be wasted on negative people and hurtful words.